Some wise words...

If I just do my thing and you do yours,

We stand in danger of losing each other

And ourselves.

I am not in this world to live up to your expectations;

But I am in this world to confirm you

As a unique human being,

And to be confirmed by you.

We are fully ourselves only in relation to each other;

The I detached from a Thou

Disintegrates.

I do not find you by chance;

I find you by an active life 

Of reaching out.

Rather than passively letting things happen to me,

I can act intentionally to make them happen.

I must begin with myself, true;

But I must not end with myself:

The truth begins with two.

(Walter Tubbs, 1972)